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Florence Balcombe


Portrait head of Florence, Mrs Bram Stoker.
Pencil on paper. Edward Burne-Jones c. 1888.
(credit: Bram Stoker Estate)

Oscar Wilde’s early romance and break-up with Florence Balcombe are well documented; as is her subsequent marriage to Bram Stoker.

Less well known, and under-appreciated for their relevance, are two compositions of regret and resignation found side-by-side in Oscar Wilde’s Poems (1881).

The two poems are titled “Her Voice” and “My Voice” that Wilde casts respectively to show the male and female attitude towards the end of a relationship.

Her Voice

The wild bee reels from bough to bough
    With his furry coat and his gauzy wing,
Now in a lily-cup, and now
    Setting a jacinth bell a-swing,
            In his wandering;
Sit closer love: it was here I trow
            I made that vow,

Swore that two lives should be like one
    As long as the sea-gull loved the sea,
As long as the sunflower sought the sun,—
    It shall be, I said, for eternity
            ‘Twixt you and me!
Dear friend, those times are over and done,
            Love’s web is spun.

Look upward where the poplar trees
    Sway in the summer air,
Here n the valley never a breeze
    Scatters the thistledown, but there
            Great winds blow fair
From the mighty murmuring mystical seas,
            And the wave-lashed leas.

Look upward where the white gull screams,
    What does it see that we do not see?
Is that a star? or the lamp that gleams
    On some outward voyaging argosy,—
            Ah! can it be
We have lived our lives in a land of dreams!
            How sad it seems.

Sweet, there is nothing left to say
    But this, that love is never lost,
Keen winter stabs the breasts of May
    Whose crimson roses burst his frost,
            Ships tempest-tossed
Will find a harbour in some bay,
            And so we may.

And there is nothing left to do
    But to kiss once again, and part,
Nay, there is nothing we should rue,
    I have my beauty,—you your Art,
            Nay, do not start,
One world was not enough for two
            Like me and you.

My Voice

Within the restless, hurried, modern world
    We took our hearts’ full pleasure—You and I,
And now the white sails of our ships are furled,
    And spent the lading of our argosy.

Wherefore my cheeks before their time are wan,
    For very weeping is my gladness fled,
Sorrow hath paled my mouth’s vermilion
    And Ruin draws the curtains of my bed.

But all this crowded life has been to thee
    No more than lyre, or lute, or subtle spell
Of viols, or the music of the sea
    That sleeps, a mimic echo, in the shell.

Silentium Amoris1

As oftentimes the too resplendent sun
Hurries the pallid and reluctant moon
Back to her sombre cave, ere she hath won
A single ballad from the nightingale,
So doth thy Beauty make my lips to fail,
And all my sweetest singing out of tune.

And as at dawn across the level mead
On wings impetuous some wind will come,
And with its too harsh kisses break the reed
Which was its only instrument of song,
So my too stormy passions work me wrong,
And for excess of Love my Love is dumb.

But surely unto Thee mine eyes did show
Why I am silent, and my lute unstrung;
Else it were better we should part, and go,
Thou to some lips of sweeter melody,
And I to nurse the barren memory
Of unkissed kisses, and songs never sung.


Oscar Wilde


Florence Stoker (née Balcombe).
November 1880

© John Cooper, 2026.


Footnote:

  1. Silentium Amoris (“The silence of love“) immediately precedes “Her Voice” and “My Voice” in Poems. ↩︎


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One thought on “Florence Balcombe

  1. Florence bore some resemblance to Lily Langtry, not surprising I suppose. Was this Oscar’s vision of the ideal woman? Does Constance fit the archtype? I think so. One can only imagine the social occasion prior to leaving for America, where Oscar encounters Bram and Florence Stoker. Or perhaps somewhat later in life. Also, should there be any correspondence between Bram and Oscar, wouldn’t that be interesting reading. I see from The Complete Letters of Oscar Wilde, that Oscar accepted a dinner invitation from Bram in March of 1889. He also acknowledges and sends regards to Bram in notes to Florence when he gifts her published copies of The Happy Prince and Salome. If not mistaken, the two are friendly prior the break-up with Florence and after the marriage.

What are your thoughts?